Posted - 10/05/2010 11:40pm
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October, 2010 

Sonoma, California




Raw Romance - the moment when "one wakes up in a lover's bed, picks up some wrinkled clothes off the floor and walks right out the door."  I read that this image inspired the American fashion designer, Donna Karan to create the spring and summer 2011 collection for women.  With such a deliciously suggestive visualization, how could I not be drawn in to view this collection?  Indeed.  Mesmerized, I should say...drawn in like a moth to the light.


The palette of colours evoking the sand and the sea were just so.  Just so lingeringly, so.  I was straightaway transported in my mind's eye.  The words that came to mind were unhurried, sensual, yielding in repose and tranquil.  I thought of languorous afternoons at the sea shore and of the Italian expression il dolce far niente, meaning the sweetness of doing nothing.  I imagined myself in the silkiest of the most malleable fabric, as I considered the hard edges of raw romance....



I closed my eyes and recollected the scent of a woman as she awakens after a night of transcendent sensuality with her lover.  A woman's essence in the afterglow is the most seductive fragrance I know, lingering long after the last desire has been fulfilled.  It is the time of immersion in the afterglow that I find most sacred.  Sacred and profound. 



How Deep is the Ocean (How High is the Sky)?


How much do I love you?
I'll tell you no lie
How deep is the ocean?
How high is the sky?
How many times in a day
Do I think of you?
How many roses are
Sprinkled with dew?

How far would I travel
Just to be where you are?
How far is the journey
From here to a star?
And if I ever lost you
How much would I cry?
How deep is the ocean?
How high is the sky?


At the time of immersion in the afterglow, I am suspended from all thinking, so I may feel my body unclothed and unadorned of all that would separate me from my lover.  It is in these numinous moments that the world I dream of takes over.  No concrete thoughts are formed in dreamtime.  The hard edges of raw romance have yet to be revealed....

When it is time to leave the dreamtime to think again, I have to decide the chiaroscuro between my man and me.  What is the interplay between our lightness and darkness (in Italian, chiaro is light and oscuro is obscure)?  Did we mesh like the finest of fabric in those sacred moments of the dreamtime?  Or did we come undone at the resplendence of our sublime sensuality?  Was it just too much in its dazzling lightness of being?

As a chiaroscurist I would have to consider the quality of our interplay the deciding influence, in whether to stay or go.  I know only too well that this presentness of being will not last.  No moment does.  And soon, very soon, I'll need to make my decision.  The dreamtime is nearing an end.

There is a glorious sense of freedom in the movement that accompanies raw romance.  The movement isn’t only in the fluidity of the supple fabrics used for a woman’s fashion.  When the night was still young and the clothes fell like feathers to the ground, I envisioned being under the spell of this enchanted thing called love.... 


....What is this thing called love?


It is always the hope that maybe this night, will be the night to have me stay.  Nothing like a sense of belonging, yes?  The home of belonging is the sinuous grace of entwinement in the arms and legs of the other, wouldn't you say?   Don’t we always want this to last forever and a day?  I know I do, I do, I do....Don't you?


And so, while I believe that Donna Karan is a woman who has loved very deeply and profoundly in her life, this time she may have ruminated on the liberating sense of solitude a woman feels as she “...wakes up in a lover’s bed, picks up some wrinkled clothes off the floor and walks right out the door.”   


I too have mused on just this scene played over and over, time and time again.  I know that loving passionately and thoroughly can happen in one night.  In one night, it is possible to savour a completed experience of raw romance that so many will never know, as they pursue romance to last a lifetime....


....How far is the journey from here to a star?


The words of the English poet, William Blake remain divine and profound through the ages.  For me, these words have always given the answer to How far is the journey from here to a star?



To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.



And yet, there are those times, on occasion, when a girl’s got to do what a girl’s got to do...when simply nothing else will do.  Forever and a day may not always stay.  Even forever and a day finds its moment to go away.  And when that moment comes, just close the door quietly and go away gently to greet the morning of the world. 





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How Deep Is the Ocean (How High is the Sky)?

Billie Holiday





Your Love is King



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Comment posted by Giovanna Pierine on 10/16/2010

My dear, it is a superb piece.   Really enjoyable, very imaginative...and the image that inspired D.K. didn't inspire me; however, after reading your piece I really want to see that collection.  You really know how to turn a phrase, my friend.



Comment posted by Marah on 11/08/2010

Ahhh...Romance...One of my dearest friends and allies!

Greetings to you, Beautiful Anya!  I am SO excited to come to the retreat this Saturday, and look forward to the journey that is waiting there.  Your writing is amazing, and I admit freely that I have been lingering here much longer than I expected!  The poetry section has especially reminded me of what I used to revel in, and it brought me to a place of bitter-sweetness; the nostalgic 'souvenier' s of my life's work thus far, and I will need to express that on the page today!  So, Thank you again, and in advance, for the work you have already inspired, and will inspire, to come forth from me.  I truly look forward to visiting with you once again!


Comment posted by Donna Colfer on 11/11/2010

Beautiful piece, Anya.  Such passionate images of sensuality...awakening the heart.  I look forward to spending the day with our group writing.  Love, Donna

Comment posted by jean arnold sessions on 11/11/2010

A beautiful piece awakening many thoughts and images for me.  I am so looking forward to this Saturday. Your writing brings energy and inspiration.  See you very soon,  love, Jean

Comment posted by Terry Corbin on 11/12/2010

Hi everyone, I am the last minute senorita again.  I am definitely looking forward to spending time with you all at the lovely Emery Estate again and to meeting old and new friends.  Reading Anya's piece made me feel a little wistful in that it has been waaaay toooo long since I have enjoyed the experience described. 

On the other hand my life is full of the sensuality of fall with the colors changing all around, with the heavy metallic taste in my mouth of the air that blows in from the sea, with the darkness that falls so early leaving us with candlelight and crackling fires, with the smells and tastes of the soups and stews that we left off since last the leaves lay on the ground.  I look forward to enjoying the sounds of friends voices, the sharing of hearts and of course the ruby, berry, fullness of the Emery wine in the glasses.

See you soon.  Terry

Comment posted by Barbara on 11/12/2010

Well it looks like I may be the tardiest visitor to leave my calling card at the atelier... I visited last week and read the Raw Romance piece and it truly has stayed with me.  What rich topics... love and freedom... and all the ways they relate to one another.  Not only in matters of the heart... this is true of anything we choose to pursue.  A dear family friend who is familiar with my current explorations on the topic of "what's next" offered this advice:  "It's not freedom that's important, it's what you're willing to give up your freedom for."  Ain't that the truth.  Looking forward to tomorrow...

xoxo Basia

Comment posted by Michael Crain on 11/13/2010

Here in the wee hours of our day together, I am looking forward to being with everyone; seeing old friends and making friends of those I have not yet met.  It will be a good day in a beautiful place...

Comment posted by deborah emery on 11/14/2010

hi beautiful!!  well another wonderful, full contunue to amaze me.  you certainly practice what you preach and you know what I are so authentic and filled with love, as you said yesterday be open and be receptive of what may come...for you nothing but the raw evokes almost naughty but wonderful thoughts!!!  hummmm...the space you create for all of us travelers is absolutely the best!  xoxox

Comment posted by Mark Tchelistcheff on 11/20/2010

Dear Anya,

Thank you again so much for including me in such a wonderful and opening day.  You truly have a gift of creating a safe place and bringing in the divine into your work.  Thank you for sharing and enabling others to share....

I look forward to seeing you again soon....


Comment posted by John Emery on 11/20/2010

Dear Anya,

What a beautiful day this has been and how special was our day together yesterday....

....Love to you Anya for the direction that you gave us and to the very brave participants that bared their souls.